“I’m frustrated that I’m not where I want to be”, I said to my coach, Stephen (yes, even coaches need coaches). We immediately did a wheel exercise where I ranked how committed I am to my creative efforts. I ranked my blog, vlog, newsletter, and other aspects of my life.
“What do you notice?” Stephen asked.
I took a deep breath. Half of my eight-slice pie was completely full. “I can’t believe how far I’ve actually come”, I responded.
When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love. – Marcus Aurelius
As I sat back in my chair taking in that moment, I realized I had been working so hard and the only reason I felt I wasn’t where I needed to be needed was because I hadn’t taken any time to savour my success. I shouldn’t have to wait to get to the top of the mountain before allowing myself to celebrate the small victories. I have been consistently updating my weekly blog for 18 weeks. My twitter, facebook fan page, and newsletter subscribers have been slowly increasing. And last week the greatest compliment of all, being nominated and subsequently shortlisted to appear in the January issue of Success Magazine.
Holding Onto Positive
A recent study, summarized by Mindful.org, had research participants respond with their level of positive or negative emotion, and its lingering result, long after the study. Researchers were particularly curious about individuals that held onto the positive emotions even after the game they played was complete. There were some people that could stay happy long after the direct reason was removed.
Find Simple Happiness
Eric Barker, writer of Barking Up The Wrong Tree, recently wrote about the idea of savouring moments of happiness in his recent blog post How To Be Happier Without Really Trying. Within his post, he gives specific examples how you can savour small moments of happiness. Through the lingering process, and small celebrations, happiness is held on and becomes a full incorporation into your life. By celebrating moments, holding onto visuals, (within reason) bragging, can all lead to prolonged happiness. The main idea is to take the time to savour the moment that made you happy and reflect back on it time again.
Celebrating Small Successes
I told Stephen that I realize it’s not that I am frustrated with how far I have yet to go, “I’m frustrated that I’ve done a lot of work up until this point and I haven’t allowed myself to be proud of these accomplishments.”
“Then how are you going to celebrate?” Stephen asked.
I knew exactly what would bring me happiness. I texted my friend and invited myself over to share a bottle of wine. I then savoured my celebration: I went for a mountain hike late day Saturday and reminded myself to be present with just this moment.
How do you savour happiness in your life? What do you do to celebrate the small win?